"Mary" was raised in a family where the unspoken rule was "don't make waves". She is a smart, funny and talented woman. When I met her, she had many ideas that she has never shared with her husband. Mary and her husband "Dave" came to see me because they had become empty nesters. With their children gone, they found things awfully quiet between them. Mary felt sad and alone. Dave said he wished he knew how to "make her happy".

We explored two areas, communication skills and looking at world views, the couple rediscovered their connection. Dave learned that Mary was reticent to share opinions, because of decisions she made early in life that it was safer to be quiet. He began to ask her opinion on things. She became more willing to share her opinions with him as she saw that Dave was a considerate listener. In fact, they discovered that they enjoyed a healthy debate over an issue and valued the input of someone with a different perspective.

When we ended our sessions, they both remarked that one of the best things they were taking with them was to be curious, rather than think you know what the other person will say or do. Dave said that this skill had transfered well to his relationship with his eldely father, too.

Mary commented that she was glad she had had the courage to tell Dave how she had been feeling. She had found being a mind reader rather exhausting!

Speaking our truth is something many of us are trained not to do as children. Unlearning this lesson is one of the keys to living Your Authentic Life!

Things To Try:

• Make a date with a friend or loved one to ask their opinion on something. Be curious about what they say.
• Agree to disagree. Say "you could be right. Can we discuss this further at another time? Please recommend something I can read on this subject".
• Talk with your loved one about some of the lessons you learned as a child that you are working on overcoming, as well as those that have served you as an adult
• Make a committment to being a good listener, rather than preparing your next remark while someone speaks.
• Speak up about what matters to you.
• Read the work of other outspoken folks.

PSYCH-K^TM Belief Balancing work is an amazingly simple, yet profound way to "rewrite the 'software' of your mind in order to change the 'printout' of your life." as described by Rob Williams, M.A. Originator of PSYCH-K^TM.

Your life is a reflection of your beliefs and your beliefs limit what you can achieve. Using Rob's unique blend of tools for communicating with the subconscious, together we "balance" to change old beliefs that sabotage you into new ones that support you in making the lasting changes you desire.

With PSYCH-K clients learn with ease. These proven techniques were developed, tested and refined over 15 years. People are often surprised at the beliefs and perceptions they carry in their subconscious mind. Conflicts between our desires and our subconscious beliefs can be identified by "muscle testing", a tool for getting yes/no responses from the subconscious mind. This tool is so powerful, it has changed my practice! My clients make rapid changes in areas as diverse as fears, phobias, relationships, performance, abundance, and health. Some changes require as little as one session. Others may require a little more unraveling to find a number of supportive beliefs to change a situation.

If you are really ready for change, ask me about doing PSYCH-K or go to the website at www.psych-k.com ! Two day Basic Trainings are being offered on three different weekends in July in Sonoma county. PSYCH-K is an important part of my tool box for therapy clients and workshop participants.

So, what is this call about? Limiting beliefs can keep us from acheiving our goals. One way to approach a current difficulty is to allow an "early recollection" to surface, to arise from the subconscious. Early recollections reflect an individual's opinion of self, others, life and the world and the path of behavior to avoid or select in order to best cope with life.

By working with an early memory, we can quickly see how our interpretation of the events, not the events themselves, formulated our "lifestyle" or manner of being in the world. Then we have the opportunity to take this conscious material and review or change it.

The subconscious mind is timeless. This makes our early experiences and decisions "feel" very current. The good part of this is, that we can rewrite the beliefs by imagining and feeling what we would have liked to be different and forming a new decision or belief.

During this call we will cover one method of accessing the subconscious programming we installed in our early years. If you have an unusually strong or seemingly irrational response to a situation or circumstance in your current life, you will learn to apply the "early memory" process to find the decision or beliefs you formed early in life that are keeping you stuck today. I will work with a volunteer to demonstrate the process and instruct you as to how to work with your own memory and shift your experience of a current issue.