Stress Busting For Your Health
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July 2007 Stress Management Update
..Because Joy is an Inside Job
Greetings,
Why worry about stress?

These days many of us have more stress than ever. I have been offering a free introduction to stress management and you wouldn't believe all the emails I get back saying
"I really need to come to that, but I am too stressed to add one more thing to my day"!

So, for those of you in that boat, here are some things I think you might want to know:

When your day is full of little irritations, frustrations, and dissappointments your nervous system is constantly being sped up.

When your nervous system is continually being revved up (think rapid heartbeat, adrenaline rush) it sends the message to your hormonal system to prepare for danger- "fight or flee"

Ongoing release of stress hormones depletes the body causing advanced aging as well as a variety of health problems: high blood pressure, heart disease, insomnia, weight gain and digestive problems, to name a few.

Taking vacations, getting massages and going to the gym are great, but they don't take care of the daily damage to the nervous system and the overproduction of stress hormone.

Stress can be managed in the moment, by working with your perceptions of a situation. Dealing with stress in the moment protects your nervous system.

Having a system to change your perceptions and your physiology stops the cycle of negative effects and, over time, undoes the damage.

It requires very little extra time to learn what to do and build it in to your day.

With tools for managing stress, you also increase brain function, what is known as cortical facilitation, making you a more creative problem solver with more access to your own knowledge and skills.

Perhaps you have noticed that when you are stressed you don't think as clearly, remember as well or perform as well.

If you would like to learn more about the effects stress is having on you and what you can do about it, I am offering free consultations through the summer months (for those too busy to attend the seminars).
Come in and learn about the books, software, electronics and individualized courses that I have available.

The stress management system I use is the only scientifically validated method for reducing stress. I offer outstanding packages of materials and coaching support. I am sure one of them will work for you!

Why not pick up the phone right now to schedule a complimentary consultation:

707-523-2033

You could be 4 weeks away
from a stress free day!

High Performance Parenting
Laurie Stolmaker, MA, MFT   Building Your Parenting Tool Box
Some folks might have missed this article or not found the link working, so here it is again!
As a parent of a teen and a 21 year old, I can say that having a great tool box has made parenting more rewarding! I know I have done my best and can continue to be encouraging as my kids move into adulthood.

Would you like to improve your performance as a parent? Here are a few tips from my article:
20 TOOLS FOR BUILDING EFFECTIVE RELATIONSHIPS

  • Instead of saying what you don't want, politely request the behavior you DO desire.
  • Take time for training! Teach the skills needed to get the behavior you desire--remember to do this one step at a time.
  • Try an "I statement" to express your feelings in a positive way.
  • Use your sense of humor--maybe a laugh would break the tension!
  • Utilize What, Why and How questions that avoid blame and shame.
  • Redirect the child's NEED to a different, more acceptable activity.
  • Structure reasonable, respectful, and related logical consequences with the child BEFORE the misbehavior occurs, if possible.
  • Plan ahead. Hold a family meeting.

For a complete list of tips, read my article:
20 Tips For Building Effective Relationships with Kids

Make Your Own Oracle Deck Workshop in July
  Consult the Cards with Your Best Answers
What is different about making your own oracle deck?





To get a useful Tarot reading, it is best to be very learned about the deck or consult a skilled reader.
With this system you create your own personal symbology to work from.

When you make a deck for yourself, you make cards that have personal meaning from your life experiences, personal guides, and areas of dedication in your life. You gain deep insights, because you know the stories intimately.
In this one day workshop you will begin to construct meaningful and valuable lessons that you will draw on again and again.

Recently, I consulted my deck before having dinner with an old friend. We had been estranged for two years. I wanted to have guidance on how best to approach the meeting- to be clear, not stuck in hurt. I pulled the card that represented my son's birth. I had a strong memory of my friend at my side for the whole birth, caring for me physically, selfless and present. It brought me to a place of peace beyond that which I had attained before. This was valuable guidance and allowed me to be very present and open for our time together.

  • Create a deck of unique cards with personalized meaning
  • Make use of your past and access your power
  • Get personal and specific insights
  • Turn the tough lessons into useful tools
  • Make decisions using your own wise inner self

Thinking about the workshop? Time to act. Call now with any questions, to sign up and to get the details. There's no time like the present!

DATE: Saturday, July 21st
TIME: 10AM to 5:00PM
LOCATION: Santa Rosa, CA
Register Now! $95* per person
Limited to 8 participants
*optional $15 materials kit may be ordered

Register with a friend by July 13th and receive your $15 materials kit for free!

Share The Wealth
 

Who do you know who would love to read this issue (or a past issue)?
I would love to get Your Authentic Life out to them.
So, can you help me meet my goal of 1000 subscribers in 2007? Thanks for all you do!

  • Forward this e mail to a friend and suggest they check out my archived articles
  • Print my newsletter and post it on your bulletin board or in the break room at your office, barn, gym...
  • send a brief note and the link to my web site with your personal recommendation for an article you liked



I now offer phone sessions by appointment. Sessions are available Monday through Thursday. I accept MasterCard and Visa as well as checks and Paypal.

All Articles Copyrighted by Laurie Stolmaker, MA, MFT 2005-2007
Laurie Sequana Stolmaker is an experienced therapist and seminar leader. She authors the monthly online newsletter, Your Authentic Life!. If you are ready to have more fun, rekindle your joy, and make a life of love and success, subscribe by going to www.joyinside.net.
You are welcome to reprint articles in their entirety, as long as you also include this copyright notice.

 

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Wondering About That Public Speaking Workshop?

I am currently referring folks that want group public speaking and performance coaching to my friend and colleague, Nancy Tierney.She offers teleclinics and a live workshop.

Nancy is the real thing! You can't go wrong checking her out. She has the best attitude and the most style. I would send my students no where else but straight to the queen of "unconditional confidence"!

If you would like to work privately with me, I will continue to offer individual support around being a relaxed and dynamic public speaker. We can set up a short series of appointments tailored to your needs. Just give me a call at (707) 523-2033.

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Laurie Stolmaker, MFT | 95 Montgomery Drive | Suite 202 | Santa Rosa | CA | 95404